I am the mother of an autistic child. I work full time, I take care of my child, I pay my bills, I pay taxes and then I undertake the difficult task of trying to find him help so that one day we may be able to build a bridge between the world he lives in and the world he lives in. If it weren’t for the fact the public school system has failed to provide him one of the rights he is supposed to have as he is an American citizen: an education, I would have a second job so that we would no longer have to be on any form of assistance. I wish for nothing more than to be able to provide a better life for him. However, getting him the help he needs is my number one priority.
So unfortunately, I am unable to get a second job or even a job in my field because there is no one else but me to care for my child. So if you are blessed, with a spouse and healthy beautiful children and you were able to take a job in the career field of your choice, then please stop and take note that not all people who are helped by the U.S. government, are on assistance by choice. Some of us are ashamed that we are unable to provide better for our families, even if the circumstances as to why we can’t, are beyond our control. Just because you were blessed in ways that I was not, doesn’t make you better than me. It just makes you lucky.
And the truth is, I would continue to give up everything: a chance for friends, relationships, even a high paying job in the career field I wasted so much money on getting an education for, all for the wonderful little boy who I love and adore. He may have his problems and there may be times like now where I feel I have not only failed him, but I also myself. I may even feel as if I have nothing left to give, but I wouldn’t trade him for anything. And shame on you for making me feel bad for doing exactly what every parent should do: everything they can for their children.